A story I have meant to write and share: Recently, a friend coined marriage as a ‘life accomplishment’ – I shook my head in distaste and disagreement. “I wouldn’t use the word ‘accomplishment’,” I replied frankly, “Societal definition maybe, but not mine.” I recalled another conversation we had not long ago about my regular pattern of … More mother / light / brilliant.
I confess that whenever I come across news or photos of someone’s eventful career path especially those that take place overseas – bonus pangs for those being places I’d once lived in or visited – I wonder if I could have had that chance had I decided differently for myself. I like to think this … More ‘successful’ – a reframe of perspectives.
I think adulthood – or is it maturity? – is when one is able to speak of a particular chapter, instance, moment from one’s past with tranquility and ease. That moment of clarity is understood when one is able to speak, at last, of an emotionally pivotal and significant period without any tremble or quiver in one’s voice. This … More “Those were six good years?” (Those were six good years.)
There was a colleague who, when I asked him why he left his ‘very lucrative and interesting’ first job years ago, hesitated and pondered for long seconds before answering, “Tak kena dengan jiwa” (Lit. Didn’t jive with my soul). He clarified that there was nothing wrong with the work and the place, but… he shook … More misfit, part II.
i. Yesterday my Eldest Bro spoke to me – over the phone, because he is awesome like that (he calls) – about personal integrity and reminded me, in his eldest brother way, not to give it up. That perhaps a place has its own values, good ones even – they’re simply not one-size-fits-all. One decides then … More misfit.
During our Friday night dinner last week – a treat for working really hard weeklong at the fabrication yard – my colleague asked whether I enjoyed my university life in the States. “Yes,” I answered immediately then mulled over his question for long seconds before continuing, “But it was…” I paused again, struggling to find … More ‘a period of searching’
A year ago, I wrote this. A year later, I am writing this: This whole week has been a week where I feel so out of my typical element yet realized that I am able to deliver even when I’m out of my element. A pleasant surprise. The engineer who stayed back with me here at the … More “Must courage always roar?” – a year later.
I often forget that I’m turning twenty-six and have for a few years now been a full-fledged adult. When I look at others moving forward with their lives, opening and starting new chapters – I wonder why I always feel rooted to particular points in time; forever neither here nor there. When I catch others in … More passing youth.
A story from last Friday: Today a colleague, yet another one, asked, “Did you go to Stanford?” “Huh?” I peeled my eyes away from my monitor, distracted, only to notice, like he must have, my Stanford Engineering mug. “Oh,” I replied properly this time. I found myself about to add on an annoyingly familiar sentence … More “So I held my tongue today and owned up to my past-“
“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.” —Rita Mae Brown