“Wanna make a monster? Take the parts of yourself-“

“Wanna make a monster? Take the parts of yourself that make you uncomfortable — your weaknesses, bad thoughts, vanities, and hungers — and pretend they’re across the room. It’s too ugly to be human. It’s too ugly to be you. Children are afraid of the dark because they have nothing real to work with. Adults … More “Wanna make a monster? Take the parts of yourself-“

“You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think-“

“You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to … More “You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think-“

“What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn.”

. “Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to look at the end of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience means to be shortsighted as to not be able to see the … More “What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn.”

“For you, have this light and fire in your heart, because it’s a wonderful blessing to feel love; because you are human; because you deserve it.”

Love, viewed from an Islamic perspective versus that of the Western world, is different. In fact, at times I find them so radically divergent that if you are a person who views and believes in love from a Western world standpoint – it is probably a genuine challenge to fathom and understand where I am coming from. It’s fine to sit this one … More “For you, have this light and fire in your heart, because it’s a wonderful blessing to feel love; because you are human; because you deserve it.”

“I’m learning to treat life as a friend; trying to understand it, trying to love it when it’s being difficult-“

“I’m learning that it is okay if I don’t have all the answers or if I’m not where I want to be. I’m learning to let life take its course instead of trying to steer the wheel in another direction. I’m learning that I won’t always get what I want but life will give me … More “I’m learning to treat life as a friend; trying to understand it, trying to love it when it’s being difficult-“

“It’s not evidence of some fundamental failing on your part.”

“It’s easy to feel not cared for when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you need. And it’s so hard not to internalize that silence as a reflection on your worth. But the truth is that the way other people operate is not about you. Most people are so … More “It’s not evidence of some fundamental failing on your part.”

“The key to your happiness is to own your slippers, own who you are, own how you look, own your family, own the talents you have, and own the ones you don’t.”

“The key to your happiness is to own your slippers, own who you are, own how you look, own your family, own the talents you have, and own the ones you don’t. If you keep saying your slippers aren’t yours, then you’ll die searching, you’ll die bitter, always feeling you were promised more. Not only … More “The key to your happiness is to own your slippers, own who you are, own how you look, own your family, own the talents you have, and own the ones you don’t.”

“That’s not innovative, I told her, that’s just successful, and successful according to a very narrow definition of success.”

This essay is so important. “Again, there’s nothing wrong with thinking that you got an A because you’re smart. But what that Harvard student didn’t realize—and it was really quite a shock to her when I suggested it—is that there is a third alternative. True self-esteem, I proposed, means not caring whether you get an … More “That’s not innovative, I told her, that’s just successful, and successful according to a very narrow definition of success.”

“Although you hide it well, you’re a little angry.”

“Be kinder to yourself.  You’re a little weird. That’s fine. Although you hide it well, you’re a little angry. That doesn’t make you a bad person. You feel like you’re responsible for everything that happens around you. You’re not. Other people have their own issues going on. You can’t fix everything. And driving yourself nuts … More “Although you hide it well, you’re a little angry.”